5 Ways to Make Goals More Manageable & Achievable
We all have goals. Some huge, others small. No matter the size, sometimes the goal requires more from us than we realized. This feeling can cause doubt, procrastination and sometimes drop the goal all together. Whether your goals are ginormous or just a step in the right direction, learning ways to make goals more achievable without it taking over your life never hurt anyone.
We all have goals. Some huge, others small. No matter the size, sometimes the goal requires more from us than we realized. This feeling can cause doubt, procrastination and sometimes drop the goal all together. Whether your goals are ginormous or just a step in the right direction, learning ways to make goals more achievable without it taking over your life never hurt anyone.
1 | Make it part of your routine.
There’s no better way to ensure you will accomplish something like spending time on it each day or week. Wouldn’t publishing a book be a lot easier if you spent 20 min a day writing, than if you decided you had lock yourself in a room for as long as it takes to complete your next masterpiece of a book? When a goal becomes part of your routine it takes away the conflict of when to work on it or if you should in less than perfect circumstances.
2 | Have someone to talk to about your goals.
It’s not uncommon to hear that you should be careful who you share your dreams with. People can inflict their worries onto you and unintentionally discourage you. Deciding who to share your goals with may be a challenge but there’s no doubt this is important. My goals are much better fleshed out when I have people to talk to about them on a regular basis. Let it be someone you trust, who understands the process, and most importantly is working on their own goals.
3 | Schedule a date with your goals.
Once a month, schedule some time with just you and your goals. See how you both been doing. No pressure, just a review of you and the goal’s interaction. Here you can decide if the goal is still what you want. If necessary, ou can now readjust your energy towards the goal the following month.
4 | Have diverse goals.
Diverse goals prompts more experiencing and less grinding. When we have goals that only focus on one area like financial success, it’s easy to get drained and unmotivated. The overall experience of striving for a better your life can be filled with variety: spiritual, friendships, professional, physical, environmental, romantic. Growing in one area will also help growth in another.
5 | Put it on the Calendar.
“If you don’t schedule it, it doesn’t happen.” If you haven’t heard this enough by now and still don’t do it then there’s really nothing more I can say.
In 2018 we are truly in a time where anything is possible. Your goals are not as farfetched as it seems.
Make it part of you daily life.
Get you a trusted friend to have goal-talk.
Take your goals on a date every month.
Keep it multi-faceted.
And if you don’t want to forget your goal, pencil her in.
It’s part of who we are as humans to strive for a better future, it must mean that deep down we know it’s possible.
Feel free,
Melissa
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The Shortcut to Success: Time and Effort
Call it get rich quick schemes or call it opportunity, many well intended and hopeful people fall for this lie: You can make a lot of money quickly and without much effort.
I recently went to Atlanta’s 2017 Small Business Expo at the Cobb Galleria. It was the perfect timing for me because I’ve been wanting to connect with other service providers within the Atlanta community. There were a few things that made this opportunity attractive. One, the venue was enormous, so I knew they expected many business owners to come out. Two, it was an all-day event, so I could go when I wanted and leave when I was ready. Lastly, it was free. As a small business owner being resourceful is key to growth and staying in business.
What I Found
I went not knowing what to expect. From the parking lot to the bathroom stalls, I met some incredible people who have taken their ideas and turned them into reality. I was happy to be around the energy of it all. Every person received a badge, identifying stickers, and then you were left to take it all in: booths, workshops, speed networking and more. I dropped in on one workshop focused on public speaking. It was informative, but of course there was a hook. By the end of the session they were asking you to sign your life away.
Get Rich Quick Scheme or Opportunity
I’ve been in this position before, and probably many of you have as well. Where you’re taking a chance to better yourself through education or an opportunity, just to find out that they want you to invest a large sum of money to take advantage of it.
I may be impulsive when trying something new or with the matters of the heart, but when it comes to money I like to do my due diligence. But in these scenarios they don’t want you to research. They don’t want you to confer with a trusted advisor. They just want you to ACT. Act based off emotions and not logic. We’re emotional beings and many of us act based on how we feel, not on what’s right or wrong but how our hearts tell us to respond. This often causes us to do things we regret. When it comes to financial regret, if you don’t have a savings- 66 million Americans do not – making an emotional financial decision can be detrimental to your current circumstance.
Who Are “They” Targeting
Call it get rich quick schemes or call it opportunity, many well intended and hopeful people fall for this lie: You can make a lot of money quickly and without much effort. I see people who desire to make a better life for themselves and their loved ones. Not only do you want to save others, you want someone to save you. Save you from your struggles and the ups and downs required to be successful. But here’s the thing, if you look at anyone you truly admire and learn their story, it took two very specific things to get where they are: time and effort- a lot of effort, aka hard work but many don’t like to hear that. There’s no escaping it. As much as we’ve sped up everything else- connections thru social media, dating thru aps, having anything delivered right to our door (now right to our living rooms). We can’t speed up fulfillment, satisfaction or success. Dues must be paid in full every single month.
The Takeaway
I know it’s tempting to believe you can make 6 figures in the matter of months or turn your life from rags to riches. It sounds like a fairytale and that’s where these stories shall stay- in books, in daydreams. But in reality, where you and I both live, you’ve got to put more than just a little skin in the game to have your deepest desires. Don’t let anyone tell you they can make you rich or successful without putting in the time or effort to show you. Don’t run from the time nor the effort. They’re both getting spent, whether it’s to your benefit is up to you.
Feel free,
Mel
The Power, Pain, and Process of Letting Go
Letting go is not about throwing everything away, cutting off toxic relationships, and chopping off all your hair. Granted, each of these things may happen as you shed the old you and welcome in a new phase. But there’s more going on underneath the surface...
Letting go is not about throwing everything away, cutting off toxic relationships, and chopping off all your hair. Granted, each of these things may happen as you shed the old you and welcome in a new phase. But there’s more going on underneath the surface. I was highly ambitious a few weeks ago when I decided to spend the next 19 days letting go of everything unnecessary in my life. Just in time for a fresh start on my 28th birthday. The first couple of days were a breeze. I was tossing like a mother. Plus I had great motivation to donate for Hurricane Harvey relief in Houston. It wasn’t until I reached the non-physical things that brought up tons of hesitation. Sometimes we’re ready for great change in life on birthdays, New Years, in new seasons, but even positive change can feel awful adjusting to, especially when doing it alone.
Expect the Great, Gross, and Transforming
Letting go of things should feel freeing and revitalizing, right? There should be a total shift in your heart, body and spirit that makes you feel like a new person. Let me assure you, these feelings do come, but not during the process. When you’re clearing out your closet, deleting thousands of emails, tossing memorabilia of horrible exes, you’re also reflecting on the choices you’ve made. And these choices don’t go down easy. You struggle with the shame and disappoint. All of sudden, your and past and present are looking you in the face begging for answers. That’s where most of us get angry, sad or both then bail. We’d rather not deal with it, not today, not ever. But that’s the thing, it never leaves us. The energy of our things and choices is always there and it rears its ugly head the next time change comes into our lives (a new relationship, birth, death, a new job opportunity).
The Power in Letting Go
We are the sum of our experiences. Each one preparing us for the next. We often ask to be blessed with greatness beyond measure, yet don't understand what it will take to hold onto the things we desire. Letting go is about taking the time to learn from our past. Reflect on it, grow from it, and be thankful for getting past it. Most of all, it’s embracing who and where we are now. None of us are who we were two years ago, one relationship ago, or even a day ago. Today we are filled with new hopes and aspirations that can only materialize if we make room for it. That’s why there’s power in learning to let go.
Learn to Let Go
A few weeks ago I was stopped dead in my tracks as I let go of everything from papers and emails to negative thoughts. Letting go of things that don’t provide value to our lives, produce benefits of many kind: clarity, focus, less stress, increased content, peace, joy and the list goes on. Getting stuck in the process can be discouraging but the positive effects are also motivation enough to learn how to overcome them. I realized just like my clients, I needed support, and knew I wasn’t the only one. As Fall sheds the dead to hibernate for the Winter in preparation to blossom in the Spring, the symbolism of it felt like the perfect time to learn the art of letting go. For the month of October I’ll be practicing the art of letting go and having candid conversations about the process. If you’re ready for a new season in your life, join in, let go and start anew.
Feel free,
Mel
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