Let love in.
Maybe love won't be so conditional in relationships when we experience love from multiple sources. When I only give my love to one person it feels sacred and deeply disappointing when it's not reciprocated. When my love is being experienced in multiple ways, I’m left feeling full of love.
Expanding has a place in simplifying. Getting more specific can complicate things, cause overthinking, and use an enormous amount of energy. It may be important to be specific when organizing a home office, but if you take a 30 thousand foot view you would see everything you own in one space, your home.
On this love day, I couldn't help but think about ways I'm willing to give and receive love. In my world, love is usually reserved for romantic interests or for kids. The more I expand my view of love I see I have limited myself to only receiving love at certain times in certain ways, instead of allowing it to flow from all over.
It can cause a lot of stress to have only one or two sources of love. When I open up an avenue of love to myself, friends, goddesses I work with, even strangers, there's a loving energy that lingers with me all day. This feels like the kind of love bell hooks speaks of in All About Love.
Maybe love won't be so conditional in relationships when we experience love from multiple sources. When I only give my love to one person it feels sacred and deeply disappointing when it's not reciprocated. When my love is being experienced in multiple ways I’m left feeling full.
Telling someone what they mean to you is an act of love.
Taking care of the body is love.
Attention is love.
A conversation is love.
Care is love.
Acceptance and understanding is love.
Creating a home designed for who you are is an act of love.
Where can you let more love in?
feel free.
Organizing your home is love.
I’m teaching people how to organize their homes for their needs this month. Are you ready to receive more love at home?
What does taking care of your needs look like?
I admit I'm used to emotional chaos, constantly feeling overwhelmed and underprepared for what life throws my way is what drives my deep need for organization and efficiency. I'm seeing how I'm the one making myself feel anxious and stressed. The environment may trigger me, but I can also create that environment.
Feels new to take care of myself over taking care of my ego. Here I am giving myself facials, baking banana bread, pouring into my peers stepping into the home organizing industry. The space that used to be filled with productivity is being filled with substance. These moments feel foreign. I find myself thinking, "What should I do next?" now that I'm not constantly feeding the ego train of do more, be better.
What does taking care of your needs look like?
It looks like eating for me.
Replacing productivity with something that fuels me on multiple levels has become therapy.
Cooking provides physical nourishment, creates a bonding experience that me and my little one will cherish forever, and allows me to be a gift to others by sharing the food I make. Although cooking gives me so much, my body is not used to receiving this kind of care.
My body is used to snacks on the go, eating in the car.
Getting used to my body not being drained at the end of the day or my mind not feeling like it has to scream is what I'm adjusting to. The peacefulness of it all.
I admit I'm used to emotional chaos, constantly feeling overwhelmed and underprepared for what life throws my way is what drives my deep need for organization and efficiency. I'm seeing I am the master of my anxious energy and stress. The environment may trigger me, but I can also create that environment.
There is a sense of fear that I won't be able to keep this up. That life will continue to get busier and add more than I can handle. This is why simplifying is a journey. It's my job to rewire myself and create a life I love managing. It's my job to create a body and mind I love being in. I am the gatekeeper to my mind, body and spirit. It's up to me to decide what I allow in.
Although learning how to manage my mental and emotional environment is new, managing the physical environment is not.
Is your home needing rewiring? I'm teaching how to create a home that supports your needs and nourishes your lifestyle. This month, learn how to organize with efficiency and ease. If this is something you and your partner can benefit from, tap in below.
feel free,
Create the home you always needed
Virtually I will coach you on how to organize your home and follow-up with a organizing session in-person.
Where is the space?
I admit, I know how to simplify a space but simplifying my life is much different. I've setup automatic payments for bills, have a daily routine, but I often feel like I can't catch my breath at the end of the day. I'm always doing something, going somewhere.
I admit, I know how to simplify a space but simplifying my life is much different. I've setup automatic payments for bills, have a daily routine, but I often feel like I can't catch my breath at the end of the day. I'm always doing something, going somewhere.
There's zero space in my life to wander, ponder, just be.
I recently miscarried and the experience of being pregnant again made me slow all the way down. I was too tired do the extra things I resent doing but feel I should. I found myself cuddled on the couch watching childhood movies with my six year old.
Why did it take such an event to make me open my eyes and appreciate my life?
Why am I in a rush for more desires?
Why can’t I enjoy being?
Childhood memories surfaced of seeing my parents always on the go, productive, never resting or enjoying life, only pushing through it. I believe my parents' generation was always pushing for a better life for my generation. I am the product of relentless effort to survive and a fight to thrive.
My parent's constant productivity may have got me here, for that I thank them. {Love you Mom and Dad} Yet this energy of always pushing through drains me and keeps my fears close by.
Since I refocusing my attention on healing and taking care of myself, I found a peace I didn't know was there. The hardly important tasks I let go of made space for rest, friends, community, and getting in tune with myself. It all gave me a contentment I felt was unattainable until I reached full financial freedom or in a healthy loving relationship.
I share this with you as a reminder that this moment right here is life. What we do every day makes up the quality of life we live. If something feels off, it's possible it's time to let go. Let go and see what fills its place effortlessly- could be love, peace, contentment.
The power of simplicity is not in the letting go but what is welcomed once you do.
feel free.