What's the Point of Getting Organized?
I’m leaving a client’s house and before I could reach the car, she calls out,
“Melissa, what’s the point of all this?”
I say, “You tell me.” She is the one who called; she should know right?
“Because I’m transforming!” She laughs, smiles, and waves good-bye.
I don’t mean to get deep, I’m just telling you what happened.
I’m leaving a client’s house and before I could reach the car, she calls out,
“Melissa, what’s the point of all this?”
I say, “You tell me.” She is the one who called; she should know right?
“Because I’m transforming!” She laughs, smiles, and waves good-bye.
I don’t mean to get deep, I’m just telling you what happened.
Why Do People Get Organized?
When people are ready to get organized there’s a transformation taking place. Something is shifting in that person’s life, and it’s usually them. Everyone I meet is going through something different:
Upgrading into a new home
Downsizing
More time on their career, less time on their personal life
New baby
Just married
Growing a business
No matter the scenario, they all have one thing in common: transformation. In the end, getting organized is the solution.
How Does Getting Organized Help in Transformations?
Getting organized is all about order. When life is turning upside down and unexpected situations are adding chaos to our usual mundane tasks, gaining order feels like a breath of fresh air. During transformations, we’re looking for a sense of relief. To not lose our cool or crumble under pressure, getting organized is exactly what the therapist would prescribe.
How does Getting Organized Benefit You?
There are numerous, if not hundreds, of reasons to how getting organized benefits our lives. Here's a few of my favorite since I’ve been adulting:
-Reduces Stress
(most important benefit in my opinion) Stress is the cause of many physical, emotional, and mental ailments. Although some stress is good for us, prolonged stress affects us in a negative way. It then impacts every area of our life- relationships, careers, self-esteem etc.
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-Better time management skills
-Able to manage the responsibilities and demands of life more effectively and gracefully
-Increased confidence in a clean and beautiful home,
not only to you but company as well.
-Peace of mind knowing where everything is,
and being able to tell others where to find it.
-Able to appreciate quality time with yourself and family,
because you’re not constantly cleaning up.
-More money stays in your pocket,
because you’re not buying things you already have.
-Able to be more spontaneous and flexible.
-Increased positive image of yourself-
felt by you and others.
The benefits go on and on.
Back to the question at hand. What’s the point of getting organized? It’s about experiencing more beauty in the short life we have, at least that’s my answer.
Minimalism: A Rich Life Without Having to be Rich
It’s the day after Christmas, and I’m running to the mall. Not to buy anything, God no. I’m not a fan of nationwide sales. Especially the kind that tricks you into believing you’re saving so much money it’s necessary to abandon quality time with friends, family or even yourself, to buy more stuff you won’t use or wear. I was returning some gifts that were well-intended but not quite right for me. I was confident hardly anyone would be at the mall. It was raining, gloomy, and it was the day after Christmas after all.
It’s the day after Christmas, and I’m running to the mall. Not to buy anything, God no. I’m not a fan of nationwide sales. Especially the kind that tricks you into believing you’re saving so much money it’s necessary to abandon quality time with friends, family or even yourself, to buy more stuff you won’t use or wear. I was returning some gifts that were well-intended but not quite right for me. I was confident hardly anyone would be at the mall. It was raining, gloomy, and it was the day after Christmas after all. Hadn't everyone spent all their savings the days prior? I was terribly wrong. It was packed. Packed to the max. Excuse the simple, predictability of my words, but that’s how it looked. Everyone standing in line with their Macy’s 25% off coupons confused by why they didn’t apply to the items they were purchasing.
“Because, this was the only way to get you into the store to spend more money than you actually intended, knowing you were never saving anything in the first place.” The clerk gently explained with a smile on her face.
People's Need for More
It amazes me that year after year, holiday after holiday, sale after sale, people have yet to catch onto the games that are being played by retail companies. It doesn’t matter how much stuff people have, for some reason they still believe they NEED, not want, but absolutely need more. “Oh I need a new coat. This room needs a bigger TV. It's half-off!”
If you stopped to take a sneak peak in the households of each of these individuals ready to buy more, you will find someone irritated by how much stuff is everywhere and can never kind what they need. A mother who can’t get a moment to herself because every single weekend she’s doing loads of laundry and never-ending tidying up. A beautiful woman with enough clothes to open not one, but two boutiques tomorrow, yet she still can’t find anything worth wearing to dinner. You’ll find someone so overwhelmed with their disorganization but instead of doing anything about it, continue to live scattered day in and day out—going from one stressful peak to the next.
(Sigh...)
None of these people are lazy or refuse to change, they’re simply unaware of what to change or how to change. A lot of what we are all seeking from life is translated to the things we invest our money in. Whether it’s love, acceptance, notoriety, purpose, self- worth, it is seen in how we spend our income. As each generation emerges, it is clear money is being spent on the more shallow areas of life- appearance, trends, beauty, cars, clothes, and not on the deeper, more lasting areas- experiences, knowledge, relationships, the environment, world epidemics, personal and professional growth.
Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with spending money on how you appear to those around you. It’s important to feel confident and proud of the image portrayed to the outside world. But the scale has tipped in that direction as if it is more important or solely important above all else. Above how we actually feel about ourselves and our lives, above the state of our relationships with those we love, above our actual reality.
And the reality is this:
People feel over-worked, under appreciated, unfulfilled, living for the weekends, and simply not at peace because there’s ALWAYS something that we should be doing in order to keep up in this race called life.
I felt nothing but pure joy to be around those I loved this Christmas. The ability to be present and embrace careless spontaneity. The simplicity in sharing a story or laughing endlessly at my niece being all or 6 but acting all of 16. The feeling of not needing to be anywhere else but here and now. The holidays are special that way. For a moment, they remind us to be satisfied with the simple things. But what if you didn’t need a holiday to feel like this. What if, enjoying the moment was possible on a daily basis. I’m not talking about living in a state of oblivion- walking around with rose colored glasses without a care in the world, but living in a state of reality, being surrounded by these moments instead of all these things.
Mutha..
Mutha Lover..
Winnie schooling IV on the art of teeth brushing.
How to Live More
How do you achieve that? How do you surround yourself with pure satisfaction instead of always seeking it in things, notifications, acknowledgements, achievements and THINGS? It's simple really, in theory. It's a little more difficult in practice-- for our time at least.
Sometimes we have to let go of what's killing us, even if it's killing us to let go.
In order to make room for something new, we must remove what's getting in the way. I see a lot of people, myself included, seeking for a life less busy, less strenuous, less difficult to maintain. A life where we thrive instead of survive. A life that is rich, even without being rich.
After spending a year in and out of homes of people from all backgrounds and all income brackets, it is clear, without a doubt, that having more does not mean a happier life. Just maybe, we have it backwards. Maybe, having less means living more.
I decided it was time to get off this train and walk a path that feels more natural to who we are as humans, before we were told what we are, how we should be, and what we should buy to feel more complete. Minimalism may not be for everyone, nothing ever is, but if the route you’re currently traveling doesn’t feel quite right, what’s the harm in going the other way? Join me on the path of discovering more life with less.
Feel free,
Mel
Can Being More Organized Give Me a Balanced Life?
Being organized does not give you the kind of balance you see in movies or these new age yoga enthusiasts having. The kind of balance I'm talking about is the kind that allows you to not be easily frustrated when something unexpected comes up. The kind where your child spills something and you don't get outraged by how their curious, tiny hands could cause such a mess. The kind that allows you to feel at ease while you simply do one thing, and not stress over a million others.
The simple answer? YES. (Closes blog post, back to Facebook feed or Instagram feed or Snapchat feed- I love me some Snapchat @feelfreeclub.)
For those of you who want to learn how being more organized can give you a balanced life and identify the areas you're living low , continue reading...
Being organized does not give you the kind of balance you see in movies or these new age yoga enthusiasts having. The kind of balance I'm talking about is the kind that allows you to not be easily frustrated when something unexpected comes up. The kind where your child spills something and you don't get outraged by how their curious, tiny hands could cause such a mess. The kind that allows you to feel at ease while you simply do one thing, and not stress over a million others. That kind of balance is necessary in our ever changing lives. There's no room for frigidness or perfection. Life is messy, nerve wrecking, ever changing and tricky at times. It's about how you manage all life has to offer. And don't expect it to ever run out of offerings.
how ORGANIZATION CREATES FREEDOM
"What you have control over you feel better about."
When areas of your life are organized that means you have a handle on it. You control it. You have a good idea of how that area effects you. This practice allows you freedom. Continuously avoiding areas you fear are too overwhelming to address is doing more harm than good. Ultimately it will need to be acknowledged. You can either be forced due to life circumstances or done willingly with you in the driver's seat.
Being self-employed, I spend a lot of time at home. There were days I found myself doing A WHOLE LOT of nothing. I would do things but none of which I needed to do. I had to make myself a weekly schedule detailing what I do each day between each hour. I'm flexible of course, but my schedule allows me to be. It creates way more structure in my day and that allows me to make time for family and friends, catch an event, or more importantly a nap. (This also made me realize I have a lot more time on my hands than I thought, and I wasn't using it wisely.)
Being organized is about having a say on how you spend your time and the things that affect you on a regular basis. What areas in your life do you feel are out of control?
Out of frustration, I quickly scribbled this schedule one morning. Since then, I've digitized it :-)
It's my mission ( is mission too much?) it's my hope to share tips and resources with you that will help you achieve the kind of life where overwhelm, high anxiety and stress is not your bestie. Where motherhood doesn't consume every waking moment of your time and energy. Because before we were mothers, we were women. Women with hopes, dreams and aspirations far beyond raising a family. This woman still exists and deserves to be nurtured. This new mother role also deserves to be developed. You can wing a lot of things when there's only you to worry about. But there's no winging lunch time for your toddler (unless your child loves squeeze pouches which is every mom's saving grace). Motherhood is surprisingly fun with episodes of disasters in between. Being organized allows you to enjoy the surprises and make it through the disasters that much better.
DETERMINE WHAT BALANCE IS FOR YOU
The first step to creating more balance is to determine what balance looks like for you and you alone.
How would you like to spend your time?
What kind of environment would you like to live in?
What would you like to say you've done this month, this year?
Asking yourself these questions will force you to acknowledge what is important to you and encourage you to seek it out. When an opportunity presents itself to increase balance in your your life, it will be difficult to pass it up. Explore how you're currently spending your time. Are you pleased with it? Look up. What do you like about your home? And your home is where you live, whether that's a house, an apartment, or a bedroom at your parents. Acknowledge what you like and what you would like to change, then do something about it. What would make this month great? Write it down. See how each week you can make that thing possible. As long as the things that are important to you are part of your life on a regular bases, unexpected occurrences sting less. Life has shifted to where your time, space, and accomplishments are aligned. Life is filled with the things that matter to you most. And that's beautiful balance.
THERE NO SUCH THING AS LOVING EACH CHILD EQUALLY
I always jokingly mention how I will probably love IV more than the rest of my future children. Of course this is probably not true (probably) but it's hard to imagine loving something or someone else as much... until you do.
Everything doesn't need the same amount of attention or time. My mother always says she loves my sister and I equally but differently. Determining which areas of your life needs organizing is crucial. There will be some areas that are more organized than others and that's because you interact differently with separate areas of your life. We all do. If you'd like to identify those areas and make alterations to managing it better check out "Organize Where You're Living Low"
We can't improve what we aren't aware of ;-). I address how to organize many common areas people are living low on Feel Free TV. Subscribe now if you'd like some help along your journey to more balance. Until next time...
Feel Free,
Mel
