Where is the space?
I admit, I know how to simplify a space but simplifying my life is much different. I've setup automatic payments for bills, have a daily routine, but I often feel like I can't catch my breath at the end of the day. I'm always doing something, going somewhere.
I admit, I know how to simplify a space but simplifying my life is much different. I've setup automatic payments for bills, have a daily routine, but I often feel like I can't catch my breath at the end of the day. I'm always doing something, going somewhere.
There's zero space in my life to wander, ponder, just be.
I recently miscarried and the experience of being pregnant again made me slow all the way down. I was too tired do the extra things I resent doing but feel I should. I found myself cuddled on the couch watching childhood movies with my six year old.
Why did it take such an event to make me open my eyes and appreciate my life?
Why am I in a rush for more desires?
Why can’t I enjoy being?
Childhood memories surfaced of seeing my parents always on the go, productive, never resting or enjoying life, only pushing through it. I believe my parents' generation was always pushing for a better life for my generation. I am the product of relentless effort to survive and a fight to thrive.
My parent's constant productivity may have got me here, for that I thank them. {Love you Mom and Dad} Yet this energy of always pushing through drains me and keeps my fears close by.
Since I refocusing my attention on healing and taking care of myself, I found a peace I didn't know was there. The hardly important tasks I let go of made space for rest, friends, community, and getting in tune with myself. It all gave me a contentment I felt was unattainable until I reached full financial freedom or in a healthy loving relationship.
I share this with you as a reminder that this moment right here is life. What we do every day makes up the quality of life we live. If something feels off, it's possible it's time to let go. Let go and see what fills its place effortlessly- could be love, peace, contentment.
The power of simplicity is not in the letting go but what is welcomed once you do.
feel free.
Finding Clarity while Quarantined | Day 11
Trying hard to listen more. The world has a lot to say. People have a lot to say. Many of us need someone who will listen. Listen to how we feel and see who we are. Understand who we are.
I’m noticing things that I never noticed before now that I have the time to notice.
Everything feels particularly spectacular, special, or worrisome.
Our habitual nature is more apparent than ever. How my family thinks. How my son thinks.
How the world thinks. The reality of life is showing up loudly.
I can see how many things we all do together, as a family unit. As a community.
Right now, no one is determining what we do each day but us.
No one is determining what we eat or when, what we watch, listen to, or do from minute to minute.
I thought I wanted to catch up on some shows. I don’t.
I thought I wanted to spend the entire time with family. I don’t.
I thought I wanted to spend it in the arms of someone. I don’t.
I thought I’d spend it getting work projects done. I’ve done one.
I admit, I’m doing an accumulation of all these things but spending more time alone than anything.
Reflecting, throwing away things, listening.
Trying hard to listen more. The world has a lot to say. People have a lot to say. Many of us need someone who will listen. Listen to how we feel and see who we are. Understand who we are.
Right now, a lot of people are saying the same thing.
After a while, regurgitating information and not being listened to causes self care to kick in.
A space to feel heard, seen, and understood in a sense that doesn’t need words.
I find this place most assuring out of any of the places I go in and out from.
My intention is to use Feel Free Club to create a pathway to get clear
and free ourselves from self-imposed restraints during this quarantine - during this shift.
With one of our greatest restraints on hold - the need to produce to survive,
it leaves so much freedom to do.
Have you been allowing yourself to do?
Are you able to just be?
Having a daily schedule gives me the space to get clear when the world is foggy. I don’t over-complicate it with doing each thing at specific times. The more things I do on the schedule, the more grounded I feel in knowing what’s most important for me and my family at this time.
Want your own schedule?
It doesn’t have to be fancy,
Write how you want to spend each hour on a piece of paper
Hang it up. [ hang it up because it will be a reminder in times you don’t know you need ]
feel free.
create your own daily schedule below..
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Maintaining the Internal
strength is internal
In the future, it’s the many parts of our internal selves that keeps us thriving.
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Being free from the everyday roles and responsibilities has been an experience one hasn’t felt in a long time.
Not having to go anywhere. Not having to do anything.
All of a sudden the pressure is off. There’s a general consensus that says everyone RELAX.
Relax until this passes.
And it shall. But where will we be? The same place we started?
Where will we be?
Some are using this opportunity to do just that. Get a jump start on where we’ve been.
Others don’t trust the moment and are working even harder to keep momentum.
While others are preparing for a shift in the practical and internal sense.
Most of what seems to be going on is internal.
It’s the only thing one can maintain in this world.
Spending more time maintaining how I feel internally and less time on the practical is giving me the kind of [rest]oration I didn’t know I needed.
A rest from over-doing in areas of life that don’t need my attention. A rest from being many things for many people all the time.
What to pay attention to?
The mental space I find myself in each day needs my attention.
My home needs my attention.
My life needs my attention.
When everything in the physical world ceases to be important, a sudden shift of what is important comes into view.
The key is holding on to this perspective as things slowly creep their way back into our lives. Creating a life of useless clutter.
A life filled with a bunch of things that don’t matter all because it looks like it does.
This feels like a rare opportunity that the world stops long enough to ask ourselves,
‘Is what I’m doing with my life what I want to be doing with it?”
Not just I a professional sense. In all of it.
What now?
There’s a temptation to stay on the train we’ve been riding for so long. Because if you don’t, you could be left behind.
Right now, the train is going so slow you can get off, go look around, take a walk to come back and see the train has barely moved.
We’ve picked up things along the journey that reflects where we’ve been, what we’ve seen, and who we’ve become.
Some of the things were not ours to have but we held it for someone we loved.
Some things we were born with and never noticed it until now.
A lot of things society and culture gave us automatically.
Moving forward,
may your life be a reflection of what you choose to carry and not what you’ve been given.
Feel free.