Me, myself, and my things.
Despite being connected to everyone I have ever met at all times thanks to phones, the internet, social media (all of it) it doesn’t change my feelings of connectedness if another body isn’t also present.
Finding ways to be comfortable in this solitude, this time of year in particular, can be hard.
Being alone can feel like a punishment instead of an opportunity.
[Facing ourselves can feel like a smack to the face]
As I’m reminded of the feelings that come with crisp weather and warm blankets, I fight to find the place that keeps my head above water.
Below the water is nothing but endless Netflix binges, lonely nights, and an uncomfortable sea of thoughts.
I always have loved the feeling of wrapping myself in endless layers. Tank top, sweatshirt, sweater, scully, scarf, and boots that cover half my leg. I consider it the adult equivalent to swaddling a newborn baby.
The comfort I feel even once I’ve entered a room and now have two layers instead of three.
The comfort of being clothed, being protected. I’m at ease. I’m more me.
This comfort can intensify when at home and alone.
Despite being connected to everyone I have ever met at all times thanks to phones, the internet, social media (all of it) it doesn’t change my feelings of connectedness if another body isn’t also present.
Finding ways to be comfortable in this solitude, this time of year in particular, can be hard.
solitude is better with the Sun
Grand Anse beach, Grenada
Being alone can feel like a punishment instead of an opportunity.
[Facing ourselves can feel like a smack to the face]
What’s the point of living a life that is either incredible or mediocre if there’s no one to share this experience with? [sea of uncomfortable thoughts]
As I’ve grown spiritually, I’ve learned circumstances are reflections of what we need to learn and heal about ourselves.
What is the opportunity of solitude trying to teach me?
[What do I need to learn about myself? What am I afraid to confront?]
What if this is an opportunity to deal with the only constant relationship I’ll ever have, the one with myself. What if this is a time to deal with my side of the street.
An opportunity to look around and say is this where I want to be, who I want to be, how I want to live?
I’ve had the tendency to put my world on the backburner in order to nurture a new world I’m creating with another.
I have greater understanding in how important it is to our future for us to honor our gifts and assignments as we build unions, raise families and evolve as individuals.
We’re now in a time where we can make our own moves and create something brand new.
Creating a space that’s more me by adding an element of design to my apartment kitchen drawers
For the first time we have a celebrity as a president and that’s because he refused to put any barriers on himself. And that’s all it takes to have the ideas in our minds come to life.
There are no more norms. No more rules.
This is freedom. This is also responsibility.
The ability to create a world that looks and feels in alignment with the authentic self and purpose, sounds like more than I can honestly chew.
Back to the comfort of layered clothes…
I imagine this same comfort can be brought on by things. The things in our lives that help explain our inner most desires and ideas about ourselves.
The things that describe our life story, identity, and culture.
These things are meant to clearly communicate who we are without having to explain it ourselves.
That’s why we hold onto them, that’s why we’re afraid to let so much go at once.
Only a couple things at a time. Only one layer at a time.
Taking off too many layers [getting rid of too much] at once leaves us with the only layer we truly need to live, our skin [authentic protection].
Seeing everything about ourselves that the eye can see, everything that makes you unique, an original. Then being comfortable there, that’s brave, that’s power, that’s truth.
Facing our clutter, past decisions, and commitments can feel like too much truth to handle at once and alone.
With another person it can certainly feel more manageable.
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And when that’s not possible all we can do is manage one thought at a time, one pile of clothes, one decision, one drawer.
But who’s ready to face their truth? Not I! lol
But I’m working on that.
I know facing the truth of who I am and who I’m not, is the first step at creating an authentic world in alignment with why I’m here.
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How I Declutter My Mind
I have always been considered a "thinker." The depths of my curiosity has no bounds. If I'm not careful, the intensity of my exploration can paralyze me, make me ill, and ultimately force myself to question who I am and why I'm here. It can be truly overwhelming.
I have always been considered a "thinker." The depths of my curiosity has no bounds. If I'm not careful, the intensity of my exploration can paralyze me, make me ill, and ultimately force myself to question who I am and why I'm here. It can be truly overwhelming.
I've had to learn ways to keep my racing mind at bay if I want to function at my best. Here are the things that have worked for me. Hope they do the same for you.
For your convenience, I also created a guide on how to declutter the mind with additional resources.
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The Power, Pain, and Process of Letting Go
Letting go is not about throwing everything away, cutting off toxic relationships, and chopping off all your hair. Granted, each of these things may happen as you shed the old you and welcome in a new phase. But there’s more going on underneath the surface...
Letting go is not about throwing everything away, cutting off toxic relationships, and chopping off all your hair. Granted, each of these things may happen as you shed the old you and welcome in a new phase. But there’s more going on underneath the surface. I was highly ambitious a few weeks ago when I decided to spend the next 19 days letting go of everything unnecessary in my life. Just in time for a fresh start on my 28th birthday. The first couple of days were a breeze. I was tossing like a mother. Plus I had great motivation to donate for Hurricane Harvey relief in Houston. It wasn’t until I reached the non-physical things that brought up tons of hesitation. Sometimes we’re ready for great change in life on birthdays, New Years, in new seasons, but even positive change can feel awful adjusting to, especially when doing it alone.
Expect the Great, Gross, and Transforming
Letting go of things should feel freeing and revitalizing, right? There should be a total shift in your heart, body and spirit that makes you feel like a new person. Let me assure you, these feelings do come, but not during the process. When you’re clearing out your closet, deleting thousands of emails, tossing memorabilia of horrible exes, you’re also reflecting on the choices you’ve made. And these choices don’t go down easy. You struggle with the shame and disappoint. All of sudden, your and past and present are looking you in the face begging for answers. That’s where most of us get angry, sad or both then bail. We’d rather not deal with it, not today, not ever. But that’s the thing, it never leaves us. The energy of our things and choices is always there and it rears its ugly head the next time change comes into our lives (a new relationship, birth, death, a new job opportunity).
The Power in Letting Go
We are the sum of our experiences. Each one preparing us for the next. We often ask to be blessed with greatness beyond measure, yet don't understand what it will take to hold onto the things we desire. Letting go is about taking the time to learn from our past. Reflect on it, grow from it, and be thankful for getting past it. Most of all, it’s embracing who and where we are now. None of us are who we were two years ago, one relationship ago, or even a day ago. Today we are filled with new hopes and aspirations that can only materialize if we make room for it. That’s why there’s power in learning to let go.
Learn to Let Go
A few weeks ago I was stopped dead in my tracks as I let go of everything from papers and emails to negative thoughts. Letting go of things that don’t provide value to our lives, produce benefits of many kind: clarity, focus, less stress, increased content, peace, joy and the list goes on. Getting stuck in the process can be discouraging but the positive effects are also motivation enough to learn how to overcome them. I realized just like my clients, I needed support, and knew I wasn’t the only one. As Fall sheds the dead to hibernate for the Winter in preparation to blossom in the Spring, the symbolism of it felt like the perfect time to learn the art of letting go. For the month of October I’ll be practicing the art of letting go and having candid conversations about the process. If you’re ready for a new season in your life, join in, let go and start anew.
Feel free,
Mel
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