Commit to Yourself
I start the day committing to do something before the day is over. I have 24 hours to get it done. Honestly, I don’t know why people say that because if you are a regular mortal like me, you are fully asleep for 6 to 8 hours each day. So for storytelling purposes, let’s say I sleep for 7 seven hours, that leaves me 17 hours in the day to get done any given thing written in my agenda book. Now let’s also assume that I am a responsible working adult and hold one of these so-called 9 to 5 gigs. I now must subtract 8 hours from that 17. I have 9 hours to get things done outside of work and sleep. 9 hours is still a relatively good amount of time to do most tasks because most things don’t take hours to. So why is it that when we set out to do something for ourselves we are not able to get it done?
This is a problem I am often looking for solutions for. When you are working on personal goals it is essential to section enough time out of your day to do things that will help you obtain those goals. But once the sun goes down and pajamas are on, the things that were so important at the beginning of the day now spills over into tomorrow’s plan.
Sometimes there are just too many things to do. At other times, we forget what it is we need to do. There’s also those moments where your plans are not as important exciting as what you’re currently doing. Whatever the case is, the things that push us closer to our dreams, closer to the person we want to be ends up falling to the wayside, while tasks for the bosses we work for or the people we love get precedence. It’s hard to come to grips that the reason we aren’t making the progress we want in life is because we simply haven’t made our lives a priority.
One reason is because our dreams and goals don’t start out as tangible things. You can’t physically see the rewards or the results of it right away. When you brush your teeth, you are able to feel and see the refreshing result of your work. When you get your car washed, you are able to see and smell the result of vacuumed carpet and sleek paint. Face it, the results of working towards goals are not always that rewarding. So there are two things you must do.
- Believe and know without a doubt that your goal is something real and obtainable.
This is ever so important, because the belief in what you want is what makes it possible and everything else will supplement it.
- Make working towards your goals have physical results
If it doesn’t naturally have a physical result, make one. The reason why it is so difficult to ignore a notification on your phone is because there’s a happiness that comes once you clear out that symbol or shutdown that light. These tangible reward systems drive us. It drives us to do more over and over until it becomes second nature.
It’s not that the things we want aren’t important, because they are. It’s not that the things that we dream about don’t matter, because they do. It’s about taking the things that mean so much to us on the inside and bringing them out.
Feel Free,
Mel
Are your thoughts on success all wrong?
What if how we've been taught to think about success is all wrong? What if all these years our version of success and happiness is skewed by society, peers, and the media. If someone was to tell you that they graduated from Havard, they are now a lawyer for a firm based out of New York City, have a pent house in Manhatten, all while the two of you are sitting in his 2015 Audi, would you think he was successful? By many people’s standards he would be. Why? Because he fits inside the categories that society glorifies: doctors, lawyers, singers, actors, professors, ivy league alumni, luxury vehicle owner, and city dweller. These roles are considered glamorous and are often aspirations.
But what if you met a mother who raised three incredible and happy children, single but enjoys dating, who absolutely loves teaching, lives in a home outside the city and loves trying something new every month like cooking or dance classes. Would she be considered successful?
If the lawyer hated his job, could never find a partner he actually wants to commit to, hardly ever saw his family because it's been difficult maintaining a healthy relationship with anyone back home since college, was tired of the fast-paced lifestyle in the city and really yearned for somewhere quieter. Would he still be stamped successful?
I look at how much people are looking for this one form of success that may or may not even be what they truly want, but since it is sealed, signed and approved by everyone else, that’s the kind of success people aim for. There are so many jobs available but people only want to fight over the same ones- doctor, lawyer, teacher, singer, rapper, actress. There are so many different kind of people to fall in love with but instead people want to fight over the same person- big butt, small waist, long weave, or tall, masculine built, dreamy smile. There are so many different lifestyles to live but people want to live the life they see everyone else living- clubs, drugs, lust, and endless partying.
It’s really important to find your own version of success and happiness. It’s important to determine for yourself what would make this life (YOUR LIFE) phenomenal, meaningful, and exciting.
You are not meant for everybody and everything is not meant for you.
It is okay to recognize and accept that. Live as if you were the only judge because no one else matters. You only have one chance to live. Live it based on your standards and yours alone.
Feel free,
♥Mel
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Do you play it safe or step into the jungle?
You can have this amazing life, with great friendships, a relationship you’re proud to be in, a career that excites you, and much more. It is true you can have all you have ever wanted, but to get there you must go through challenges and obstacles that feel as if they may kill you. There are a combination of experiences that will come your way that is meant to try and break you, expose you, shift you, and tear you down. These are no accidents. The truth is, you cannot stumble upon the life you aspire to have—you must go after it. Parents were never intended to give it to you. Your job is not there to build it for you. Your significant other is not meant to reveal it to you. You, and only you, can create it for yourself.
As I make my way each day to manage my life as I aspire for dream number one, two and three, it becomes clearer that the things I choose to do and not do, create my tomorrow. It does not matter if I’m at odds with a friend, struggling on my job, or simply not in the mood to do anything productive. It does not matter, but it will show. All the excuses I give myself and all the conversations I have with my alternate personality can only disguise the reality of my situation for so long. The results of how you choose to deal with the things that aren’t going quite right will show itself over and over again, and that is fact.
You cannot protect yourself from sadness, without protecting yourself from happiness,
Johnathan Safran Foer
Does this mean it is better to stay on the side of caution where things are predictable, life is mundane, risks are never made, fights are never fought while time creeps by? Or is it better to take that step into the jungle and discover all the things you have been looking for? When things are unbearable you must remind yourself that the road to freedom was not meant to be smooth but some things are just worth fighting for.
Feel free,
♥Mel
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