Why Do People Copy Others?
Big lips✔ Coke bottle figure✔ Long hair✔ Eyelashes that make my eyes look like a spider✔ Light skin with a hint of tan✔ Big breasts✔ Ass that mimics that of Nikki Minaj.....impossible, that girl is an alien.
Big lips✔ Coke bottle figure✔ Long hair✔ Eyelashes that make my eyes look like a spider✔ Light skin with a hint of tan✔ Big breasts✔ Ass that mimics that of Nikki Minaj.....impossible, that girl is an alien.
So many females have taken their bodies and changed it in into something unnatural and trendy instead of embracing beauty that is authentic and unique.
I don't really understand the reason for doing this. Yes I do have my own set of insecurties: my skin is prone to breakouts, my knuckles are fat (those of you who only wear rings on one finger know what I'm talking about), and my ass... let's just say it's more like Kelly's than Beyoncé's.
We all have features that are far from perfect, but since when was being a duplicate of another the goal?
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It is natural for us to yearn to be part of a group. We are drawn to likness. That's how we determine friends, companions, political parties, amongst many other things, but it's through our differences where our true identity is formed.
People often copy others in hopes to have what they have. But just like the old saying goes,
Everything ain't for everybody"
It is your own style and personality that will grab the attention of others. People are in awe of those who can shamelessly brings forth who they are.
When going after your dreams it's so easy to look to those you admire and mimic their every move. They are the blueprint, they are the idols. As long as you follow their lead you don't have to risk being different and you don't have to find your own way.
But it doesn't work that way. We are not meant to replicate anyone else. Someone else's greatness is revealed to inspire you to find your own. We fear that what we have to offer may not be good enough, worthy of acceptance or admiration, or worse--- will be ignored.
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Doing great things and living a great life will always come with great risks to our ego. The true test is doing it anyway.
The one thing that people from all walks of life relate to is
realness....
authenticity...
truth.
When you put aside your fears of not being liked or accepted, and embrace who you are and what you have to offer, you are bound to get back that exact authenticity from others.
Remind yourself, ain't nobody built like you, you designed yourself " Jay-Z
Whatever is different about the way you look, the way you sound, or the way you persue you goals, own it. It is your key to discovery. Common ones are nice, but it's the uncommon who are unforgettable. Feel Free, Mel
What Necole Bitchie Taught Me About Living Your Truth
We are in a day and age when salacious news trumps truth and positivity. The Love and Hip Hop series on VH1 is the most watched tv show not because they're curing Aids or helping the needy. There's more drama in one episode than an entire senior year in high school. The characters are willing to entertain by any means necessary in order to stay relevant instead of living a life of truth and positivity. People are so scared to find their own voice, live their truth,
We are in a day and age when salacious news trumps truth and positivity. The Love and Hip Hop series on VH1 is the most watched tv show not because they're curing Aids or helping the needy. There's more drama in one episode than an entire senior year in high school. The characters are willing to entertain by any means necessary in order to stay relevant instead of living a life of truth and positivity. People are so scared to find their own voice, live their truth, and give into their own unique power that, they would rather follow what is trendy.
MY TRUTH I've been thinking a lot lately about what I want to impress on the world. I've been thinking about my message and how I want it to influence people. There are many bloggers out there building their business and brand. Some have no interest on how their message is received or what they deliver as long as people are watching. Not I. It matters to me greatly what people think about or do after visiting my page. I want those of you who take the time to read each post to do great things, feel better about yourself, find freedom in living your truth, and most of all, increase love and positivity in every area of your life.
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HOW TO FIND YOUR TRUTH When someone is bold enough to take a chance on something that's not popular but instead is powerful, they are looking to evoke change in people instead of provoking change. Evoking is when you are looking to bring out the best in the people you influence. Provoking is when you are pushing someone to take notice in you. (Posting 100 times a day, talking to be talking without a purpose or a clear message, grabbing attention however and whenever)
Necole Bitchie (as many know her but her real name is Necole Kane), celebrity gossip blogger turned messenger of truth, change, and positivty, said
When someone hands you the mic you should have something worthy to say.
This message touched me because I know that I want to encourage, inspire, and enlighten those around me to be all that they want to be. I know that regardless if I inspire one or thousands it all matters, because people do AMAZING things when they are inspired. By no means do I claim to be a guru. My creative expression -- my writing, my pictures, my work is me living my own truth. I would be doing these same things in private, but I've decided to grab a piece of the internet and share it. There's great power in a testimony. If my path encourages others to find their own then by all means I will not stand in the way.
THERE IS PURPOSE IN LIVING YOUR TRUTH Whether your gift is writing, speaking, acting, running, marketing, whatever it may be, there is a great purpose for that talent that you must discover. There is nothing wrong making money from your gifts or presenting them for others to recognize, but until you determine the purpose behind your talent there will always be a sense of longing for something more.
The bravery it took for Necole to step into a lane of her own and start something less popular but more purposeful is the kind of trait needed to follow your own path and not fear it's outcome. I am gratful for people like her who are willing to fight for the good things in this life- love, happiness, passion, peace, community. Because enough people are fighting for the fleeting- money, fame, glamour, trends.
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Although there is enormous uncertainty to where your truth will lead you, it is only because it has never been created by you before. Therefore you are creating something one of a kind. There is something more in store for us all if we dare to explore it. It's not beside you, it's not behind you, it's not even in front of you, it's within you. It always has been and always will be. Now let it out.
***How do you live your truth? Share how you are currently living your truth or what you intend to do in order to start living it. I'd love to know. Comment below!
Feel free, Mel
One Sure Way to Build the Confidence You Need to Act on What You Want
I've always been tight with my money. I'm a frugal person and not ashamed to admit it. I save, save, and save some more. Not for anything inparticular, more like a rainy day fund. But one day I was reading this post from one of my favorite blogs and it dawned on me that I get nervous to spend money on myself? Why is that? It's my money. I've earned it. Who else should it be spent on?
I've always been tight with my money. I'm a frugal person and not ashamed to admit it. I save, save, and save some more. Not for anything inparticular, more like a rainy day fund. But one day I was reading this post from one of my favorite blogs and it dawned on me that I get nervous to spend money on myself? Why is that? It's my money. I've earned it. Who else should it be spent on?
When it comes to my needs: bills, food, toiletries, shoes, I never think twice. Although, when it comes to things that may not be a necessity, but could be beneficial towards my goals, I hesitate.
Investing in yourself and your business is crucial to your success. Doing otherwise will stunt your growth, delay progress, and give you one more excuse to why you are here⬇ instead of there➡. We spend a lot of money on things that never pay for itself, but clutters our physical and mental space instead.
What if the money you had after paying for your needs (bills, food, shoes) you spent it on pursuing your goals? What if you bought a book, purchased an online course, attended a seminar, or hired a coach?
How would your goals be affected? That book would fuel you with knowledge. That course would provide you with tools and tactics. That seminar would ignite inspiration to push further. That coach would keep you on track and never allow you to waiver. You would be surprised by how much faster and easier your goals come into fruition.
I decided to do the same some time ago. I vowed to stop skimping on the things that mattered a lot to me (specifically my business). I spent the money and did not hesitate. It's funny how quickly things began to evolve. I gained access to information and opportunities that were unexpected. Speaking engagements started coming my way, clients were interested in hiring me, and I started to apply myself like never before.
Taking something as tangible as money and putting it towards something intangible, like dreams and goals, provokes confidence. I could see the vision in my head become more of a reality in my life.
Simply put, I put my money where my mouth is.
When you're presented with an opportunity to purchase something that would feed your dreams, and you hesitate instead of jump, subconsciously you are asking yourself one thing:
Can I really get a better job? Can I run my own business? Can I really do this?
Here's the thing, you can and you will, but only when you act will you find out. In order for others to invest in your talents you must be willing to do it first.
The vision in your mind is worth the money in your pocket. It's worth an opportunity to become reality and it cannot live off faith alone. Turn your dream into a need. Invest in yourself and never hesitate because what you have no one else can give.
Feel Free,
Mel