Why Be Kind to Unkind People
It can pretty difficult being the bigger person. When someone rights you off, insults you or tries to minimizeyou, all you think about is how dare they have audacity to come at you in such a manner
It can pretty difficult being the bigger person. When someone rights you off, insults you or tries to minimize you, all you think about is how dare they have audacity to come at you in such a manner.
It can catch you completely off guard. You may have thought the relationship had more respect. You may have thought the person wouldn't say or do something trying to intentionally fluster you.
It's so easy to give them a taste of their own medicine. It's easy to take fate in your owns hands and give them what they deserve.
Overall I believe I'm a kind person. I don't make many enemies. I'm usually the cup of tea that everyone enjoys. So when I get tension from others it feels odd. My analytical Virgo nature kicks in, and I try to figure out where the hostility is coming from.
No matter what I come up with, my assumptions never get me anywhere.
Trying to determine the reason behind the actions of others is draining. You'll spend time and energy in vain because,
What people reflect has nothing to do with you.
Even Mother Teresa is hated on my someone somewhere. All you can do is determine how you react. I've learned it catches people by surprise when you don't react how they expect you to. When something is not the norm it shocks people.
As I get older, I learn a lot from the different relationships in my life. It can be a battle reverting back to the person you used to be and the person you are trying to become.
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Maturity doesn't happen at the same time for everyone. There must be a standard to do certain things. 16 to drive, 18 to go to the army, 21 to drink. But age is not what determines maturity. I've met many "adults" who do the same thing were doing in high school. Maturity comes from life experiences that provoke change. Just because someone has been on Earth longer, doesn't mean they've been though life altering events that encouraged them to grow.
Being the bigger person is not easy but you're not doing it for the other person-- you're doing it for you. You are working to become better. You are reflecting on your life and making the necessary changes to have the life you desire, to be the person you're meant to be, and to live a life of peace, authenticty, personal satisfaction, happiness and most of all love.
Situations will come your way to get you to that place. It's up to you to recognize them and grow from each lesson. Don't allow awkward and uncomfortable conversations to stop you. Don't give into doing what is expected of you because it's easier. Rise above. Be stronger than the person you used to be. Feel good about being greater than pettiness, drama, and negativity. The more you give off what you want, the more you receive what you need.
Feel free, Mel
The Thing that must Change for your Situation to Change
In order for your situation to change, you must change.
When I find myself making the same complaints and blaming things on the circumstances around me, it dawns on me that my circumstance is not the issue. It sounds so obvious,
For things to change, you must change".
But instead we tell others how they should change. We tell others what they should do and how to act. Hoping that a change in them will bring about a change in us..
In order for your situation to change, you must change.
When I find myself making the same complaints and blaming things on the circumstances around me, it dawns on me that my circumstance is not the issue. It sounds so obvious,
For things to change, you must change".
But instead we tell others how they should change. We tell others what they should do and how to act. Hoping that a change in them will bring about a change in us.
The last thing we want to do is reflect on our own behavior and the impact it has on our lives. The last thing we want to do alter is ourselves. Even though altering ourself is the only thing we have sole power over. We'd rather not do it. We'd rather not try.
But you can't wait on people or situations to change in order to see your life change. You'll wait forever for something you don't even want.
In order to have control over your life, you must gain control over yourself. Ask yourself, what is the one thing that I could do differently that would change my circumstance?
Like many of us, I desire more time to get things done that are important to me. In order to have that, I would need to wake up earlier. I would need to give myself ample time to prepare for each activity my day consisted of. For as long as i can remember, I've been terrible with time, and I've never been a morning person. The thought of waking up any earlier than 5:45 makes me cringe. But is what I want less important than waking up earlier? If I keep starting my day the same, will I ever have control over the rest of my day? If I never gain control of my days will I ever have control over my life? (I'm drastic like that.) But it's true.
Can you believe it's already August? If you haven't realized it by now, if you let your days pass you by, your year passes by even faster.
Each and every day makes up our life story. And I don't want to look back and say I stayed in a situation I wasn't happy with much longer than I wanted to all because I refused to wake up 30 minutes earlier. All because I refused to change.
I'd rather take control of my day instead of letting the day take control of me.
The changes you make don't have to be big in order to make a big impact. But the changes do have to be about you and you alone and allow the things around you to adjust.
Are you willing to sacrifice the person you are for the life you want?
Feel free, Mel
Why the Information You Learn does Nothing for Your Business or Your Life
They say when you know better you should do better. People take in valuable information everyday and choose not to apply it. Why is that? Is it forgetfullness, laziness, or being too comfortable? I am always reading or watching something that is going to teach me something about anything. But what's the point of all this knowledge if it's not applied anywhere? Is it my goal to become a walking library?! Absolutely not.
Ignorance is only bliss to those who intend on staying there.
They say when you know better you should do better. People take in valuable information everyday and choose not to apply it. Why is that? Is it forgetfullness, laziness, or being too comfortable? I am always reading or watching something that is going to teach me something about anything. But what's the point of all this knowledge if it's not applied anywhere? Is it my goal to become a walking library?! Absolutely not.
I want to better my life and encourage those around me to do the same.
I watched something recently that stated the odds of someone making a change is 9 to 1.
That means,
out of 10 people only 1 will be determined enough to make a significant change in their life.
Even though these odds are stacked up against you, something in the back of your mind tells you that you are the 1 out of 10. With all you have been through, all the talents you possess, all the knowledge you've acquired, you know that with enough time and effort you could beat the odds.
It's not a good feeling knowing what you could be but failing to amount to it. Knowing that life has something more in store, but you haven't found a way to tap into it. Although the odds of making life changes are slim, it's possible. People beat the odds everyday. They don't look back at where they were or who they used to be. They are looking forward at who they know they can be.
In order to beat the odds, make change a must and not a should.
If you knew the steps you must take in order to reach your goal, would you do it?
I've been breastfeeding over 4 months now. I will be breastfeeding until my child is 1 years old. At one he will be able to drink cows milk like the rest of us. There are alternatives that are much easier and less demanding. But I know that my son receives the most nourishment from the milk that I provide him.
So I made a choice, a choice to change. I made producing milk a MUST and not a should. I knew the actions I needed to take to be successful: have a pumping schedule, drink plenty water , take herbs, eliminate certain foods, incorporate other foods, amongst other things. And when someone asked me at the beginning if I was going to buy formula as a last resort for when things get tough (because it was tough. I'm talking cracked nipples and sore breasts. It got ugly ). I told them no.
Because with enough patience and know how, I knew I could reach my goal. 4 months down, 8 more to go.
With all the benefits I know about breast milk, I couldn't sit back and buy my son formula. Since I knew better, I decided to do better.
Just because something is better for you, doesn't make it easier to do. Now with all that you know about yourself and what you are capable of, can you sit back and watch your hopes and dreams waste away? Is your vision for who you can become not compelling enough for you to change?
What would it take to turn the things you should do into the things that you MUST do, to have the life you deserve?
Feel free,
Mel