It’s difficult being human.
There’s no Ph.D in being a human yet everyone is trying to reach mastery.
How Do I become better at this whole life thing?
Since childhood I’ve longed to figure out how to do life better. I was positive I would figure it out by now. Welcome to Self-Help, the industry that tells you can become better at life if you work at it every single day, but you will never reach your ultimate best self because you can always be better.
Better is the goal right? Because the present is not nearly as good as it can be. And that’s where things start to crumble. Not accepting the present reality for all it is, the good and the ugly, will always bread unfulfillment. I’ve never been content with the ugly, the uncomfortable. The less than favorable aspects of life need to be eliminated in order for me to be at peace. So here I am 34 and not content with everything, so I’m not content with anything.
After all these years of aspiring and acquiring, I’m wonder if self help can be summed up like this:
Being human is hard and it’s more pleasurable the more you are kind, patient and gentle with yourself.
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preserving people.
preserving people.
keeping moments close to my heart
the relationship meant so much
if all i get to have is threads, the pop-up of your name, the small image of your face
i'll take what makes me remember
every air grasping laugh
every crazy adventure
every phone call that lasted hours
the xanga site we shared talking our shit at 13
our gang name and childhood schemes
no new friends, that was us
we cuffed new friends
but knew who to trust
not having yal part of me feels like a part me is gone
her image has been fading for so long
i was scared of what it meant to lose a part of me
slowly and abruptly
the part of me scared to fly
always needing security by her side
virgos love adventure
i take flight every time i step outside
trembling but not afraid
for the universe keeps me safe
ive learned there's more to learn
about friendship
connection
growing with someone
feeling safe enough to glow with someone
there's more to learn about the friendship i have with myself
if you continue living
you will evolve past what you are used to
looking back i know where the path goes
looking ahead unknown beauty will unfold
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WHEN DOES TOO ORGANIZED BECOME TOO STRESSFUL?
Making my environment as predictable and pleasing as possible is rewarding for me but may not be for everyone.
When does organization backfire? When it gets in the way of enjoying life.
I've had a mixed bag of responses when it comes to my place.
Welcoming.
Relaxed.
Anxious.
It depends on the individual.
If anything is out of place it's noticeable.
When does organization backfire?
When does too organized become too stressful?
Spontaneity is part of life.
The fact we truly don't know what the future holds is TERRIFYING.
We wake up and live through each day not knowing what will happen, only what we think will happen.
There are few things I can control.
Although this is not what I was taught.
I was taught to pay attention to how others respond before I looked at how I felt.
Looking at what I'm feeling, thinking and acting (the only things in my control) is what I look at second.
I'm in the season of switching this habit.
PAYING ATTENTION to what I feel about what happens.
REVIEWING what I do each day.
LISTENING to what I tell myself.
These things give me more peace than anticipating the needs of others, trying to control the outcome.
I must say it's easier to assume how others feel.
Assuming also creates illusions about life.
Authentic experiences with the world requires engaging with the world.
My mind.
How I respond to experiences.
How I care for my body.
My environment.
These things are in my control.
(to an extent)
What I have access to is what is available at my disposal.
Making my environment as predictable and pleasing as possible is rewarding for me but may not be for everyone.
I don't like rollercoasters. My friend asked me "but you don't mind if other people do?"
I do not.
That can and may be true for all things.
What I despise, may excite someone else.
What touches me deeply, may have little impact on another.
Each of us respond uniquely to the world.
When does organization backfire?
When it gets in the way of enjoying life.
Your organized life can be to the extent that fits you.
A chair of clothes, papers scattered, shoes accumulating, a basement full of possessions from your past selves is all part of life.
Everything is not meant to look beautiful and simple all the time.
When it feels stressful take a look at what is calling your attention.
Life is always calling.
We are always playing.
feel free.
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