There's Beauty in Acceptance

There will always be parts of me that’s clumsy, wild, intense and sarcastic at its finest. For a while, I thought these things that are not perfectly polished, positive and logical should be fixed in some way. Find a way to be less like that, and a  little more like this in order to be the best me I can be. I can hear my father’s voice, “Improve each day. Be better than you were the day before. Always strive for self-improvement,” as he slightly stutters through each statement. I took this to mean each and everything that’s a little messy should be examined and eliminated. The thing about loving self-improvement as if it’s a hobby, is you can have the tendency to hide the parts that make you unique if you’re not careful. There are things about me that I’m ashamed to think about or say out loud because it may be “too much,” or offensive  or a little too raunchy :)  I used to be in a relationship when during sex I was scared to tell him what I really liked or worse, what I really didn’t like. I used to have a best friend that I wanted so badly not be friends with anymore because we no longer had things in common. I felt absolutely horrible in wanting this. At times, I can get so nervous about dropping things or making mistakes that it almost never fails that I make even more mistakes. The parts about me that fit outside the box are really that pieces that hold me together. They are really the things that make life more enjoyable for me. But it’s hard to enjoy things you are embarrassed of in front of others. It’s difficult to admit you think someone is attractive when all your girls say otherwise. Sidenote: I love awkward looking men. There’s something particularly special about people with exaggerated features. Get’s me going lol. I digress. It’s hard to post a picture of yourself after the first try. You need 20 more takes and maybe the ok of your bestie to click upload. When the truth is they ALL looked the exact same. It’s the parts of us that are hard to stomach that we must get comfortable with. The fear is we think this sets us so apart from others. No one else does this, thinks this, says these things when the truth is that’s a lie. We are more alike than we realize but completely different in our own way, which is the beauty of acceptance. Accepting yourself for all of who you are. Accepting the things you’ve done that you may not do today because now you no better. Accepting the truth about what you want out of a mate, even if it’s your first time admitting it out loud.  Accepting that you have some habits that are a bit strange to say the least, but it helps you function better. Most of all, accepting that you’re changing and growing day by day, and it’s up to you to define who you are. But in order to do that you must ACCEPT who you are, and that means all of you.

It's Absurd to Think the Single Woman is Happy

Is it really that absurd for a woman to enjoy being single? Does something have to be wrong with her? Why is it assumed that she’s not single by choice? In today’s time, and I guess since forever, a female’s worth and status is determined by the man she is with or not with. She could have her masters, a fulfilling career, her own home AND a car, but if she doesn’t have a man by her side, she must be unhappy. Now let me say this now: EVERYONE ON THIS PLANET WANTS TO BE AUTHENTICALLY LOVED AND ADORED BY ANOTHER HUMAN BEING. Although this is a universal truth that everyone is aware of, society has portrayed this to be more of a truth for women than men. If a man is single in his twenties, majority of people will think he’s enjoying his freedom and focusing on himself, his career, or simply “sowing his royal oats” . A female on the other hand has to be too picky, crazy, or something is definitely wrong with her. Why can’t females be in the same situation? Why can’t women choose not to be unhappy and just be…free. The 21^st century woman is of a different species. We have more freedom, access to opportunities and education than our ancestors ever seen in their lifetime. We’re making more money and have the ability to govern our lives without depending on our counterparts. This puts the 20something year old female at an advantage in many areas except in love… at times. There’s a select group of men that are prepared for this progressive species. The rest fear or are confused by this “female”. She is challenging, insightful, sexy, aggressive, and daring. She fears so little including knowing her desires. One of two things can happen to this woman in the arena of love. Option No.1- She can be admired by many, but not attained by one. For her complexity is stifling, and let’s face it, there are easier options where the batteries are included. Option No.2- She can meet that man who sees the worth in having this unique woman. He knows himself and is excited about a woman who goes against the grain and authentically lives for her happiness at her own standards. Either way, what this woman cannot do is pretend. Pretend to be interested in someone that doesn’t match her value. Pretend to like guys just because they like her. Pretend she doesn’t yearn for a love that is transparent and beautiful in a time where people show so much of themselves but none of who they really are. She can’t pretend she doesn’t want to be happy. She has found great happiness within and until someone comes along and enhances that, you simply can’t take her away from herself. 

If You Don't Move

If you do not inquire, how will you ever know? If you do not try, how will you achieve? If you do not move, how will you see progress? If you don’t take action towards the things to want, how will you ever get it? If you don’t start being what you strive to be how will you be it? You cannot call yourself an artist if you are not making art. You cannot call yourself a writer if you are not writing. You cannot call yourself ambitious if you are not striving for something great. There is much comfort in sitting, thinking, planning and daydreaming. You feel safe as you plan out your life in your head. There’s no noise, distractions or obstacles, only imaginary scenarios played out in a place opposite of reality. None of those plans, ideas and aspirations will become real if you do not take action. At times we feel all of our ducks must be in a row before we can start something: a solid monetary foundation, connections with the “right” people, a certain degree, and the list goes on. The truth is, none of that is needed to obtain what you want. The moment you start taking action towards what you want, is the moment you are making it possible for the opportunities to guide you towards your desires. Once the seed is planted within you, it is your responsibility to nurture it. Give it what it needs to bloom. Water it, give it sunlight, prune it, and give it space. Do this daily and in a matter of what will feel like no time at all, something amazing and beautiful will be before you. It may catch you off guard because just the other day it was only a seed in a small pot of soil. With discipline, persistence and love it managed to be greater than you anticipated. When you nurture your dreams you are showing yourself love. You deserve to be invested in but no one can do that until you do it for yourself. Do not think about the success. Do not think about the outcome. Do not think about others who are doing it. Just start! Start doing what you want. The action itself will motivate you alone. Each time you make one step you will want to make another. But you have to take the first step.

Live freely***~~**